Self- compassion is something that I have only been practicing for a few years, and I have found that it makes me happier and kinder to myself and others. I wanted to share more about it with you today because it can have some powerful positive influences over our mind. Let’s get started, shall we?
What exactly do I mean when I say “self-compassion”? Well, first and foremost I mean the act of being kind to yourself. When you encounter a fall, it’s not beating yourself up, it’s being kind and understanding to yourself. It’s the act of compassion toward yourself from yourself. Self-compassion is the process of sending yourself love and gratitude on a regular basis. It is appreciating yourself even if you fall and even if you think you’re not doing that great. It is limiting the negative self-talk and increasing the positive self-talk.
So that all seems super easy right? Well, it might not be as easy as it sounds...
Explaining and understanding self-compassion is sometimes easier than putting it into practice. Why? Because we live in a world where we thrive on comparison and competition. In a world where it’s easier to put ourselves down and beat ourselves up than it is to be positive toward ourselves. Wait, what? Yep, I’m saying that it is sometimes easier to be negative than it is to be positive especially when we are talking about ourselves. Also, in our world it’s sometimes seen as arrogant or bragging when we give ourselves a compliment, so with all of these factors you can start to see what I mean. What do we do to change this? Insert: self-compassion.
You might be thinking, “Well that’s all great, but how do we even start to implement self-compassion?” Well, let me get to that now.
Self-Compassion takes practice, but with time will become easier and easier. The next time you have a fall or feel you did something bad/stupid/dumb and you’re about to beat yourself up. Stop. Send yourself some love instead. Say something positive and cut yourself a break. This may seem silly at first, but you will get used to it over time. It is a practice, and it will grow as you grow. Regular self-affirmations can have lasting positive effects on our mental and emotional health.
So the next time you want to beat yourself up over something, send yourself some love instead. We all need more love in this world :)
And just for fun a few positive affirmations incase you’re feeling stuck:
-“I am strong and powerful”
-“I am really good at ______”
-“I am a great friend/partner/roommate, etc.”