As you may have noticed, I haven't been posting a lot to Facebook lately. I thought about it a lot, and I worked to come up with articles or ideas to share, but it didn’t feel organic, so I let it be. I let the page collect some dust because to be truly honest, I need a break. I needed some time off. You may be thinking, “well all you do is post articles, how much time does that take?”. I don’t want to post any random article. Everything I post is thoroughly read and it is something that I agree with 100%. It takes me time to read and thoughtfully think about what I want to post. I also want to be excited and fully support what I post. I don’t want to fill your newsfeed just to have something out there because I can’t get behind that. Now what I can get behind is doing what feels right for you. I’m really working hard to listen to myself more and do what I feel is right. Not what is right for my colleague, not what is right for my partner, not what is right for my neighbor, but what is right for me and my business.
Sometime in March, I realized I was too busy and too booked. I wanted to cut back and slow down, so I’m doing just that. I took inventory of all that I have been doing, and all that I am committed to, and I am learning to say no. I’m working to focus on what makes me happy, what brings me joy, and eliminating the rest. I live in the moment. I know that we aren't guaranteed tomorrow, and because of that, I want time with my family, I want time for myself, I want to do what I want to do. So that is what I’m working on. It is taking time. This is something that I anticipate will take several months, possibly years. However, I have already stopped doing some things, and it feels wonderful! It feels like I can breath again. What an amazing feeling!
I wanted to share with you my steps to slowing down. I have been reading and listening to podcasts about slowing down, and it helps a lot! I recommend the book Chasing Slow by Erin Loechner and the podcast The Slow Home Podcast. They bring so much insight and support around slowing down, that it is truly inspiring! Besides those things here are a few ways I am slowing down:
Step 1: To start I made a list of what is truly important to me. What values do you cherish? In a dream world, how would you spend your time. Mine revolved a lot around my family, friends, my self care, and my hobbies.
Step 2: Next, I made a list of everything I’m committed to. It made me tired even looking at it, so I knew that was a big sign I needed to slow down and cut some stuff out.
Step 3: Then I started thinking a lot about what brings me joy and happiness. What makes me feel good, and makes me want to keep coming back? I also ask myself, “Why am I doing this?”. That has shed some light on the real reasons I felt the need to take so much on. These questions help me find what I really want to be spending my time on.
Step 4: Then after some time, I realized what brought be joy and happiness, and the rest I’m saying no to. I have quit a few things, and I have said no to a few others. Then as I slowly quit or say no, I cross those things off of my list. Man does that feel good! Bye bye busyness!
Again this all can take a lot of time. I am nowhere near where I want to be with my slower life, but I’m making progress. I know that slower living is not for everyone, and that is ok. You do you. And remember you’re amazing no matter what life path you choose.